My Aunt’s Son Shouldn’t Be a Dad. Must I Congratulate Her on the New Grandkid?

When people you love get something they value, it seems apt to congratulate them, regardless of how you view the situation. I would congratulate a friend who won tchotchkes she wanted in a raffle, even if I thought she already had enough of them and even if I’d junk them myself. But if I believed that the situation posed genuine harm for someone — if an alcoholic friend, only tenuously sober, won a case of cognac — I would convey my concerns along with my congratulations.