While grieving, Erika had to put together her husband’s memorial service, try to keep his business afloat, and handle the mundane bureaucracy of death: legal certificates, beneficiaries, account issues, estate management. “Ralph thought he was invincible,” Erika told me. “He didn’t make any preparations.” Matt Rosenberg, Erika’s brother-in-law, added, “It’s really hard to see paperwork through tears.”