Gurung:By looking over at my mother. I wasn’t fully privy to the details of the abuse she went through from my father, but I was aware of it, and I always saw her conducting herself with grace and grit and quiet defiance, so I emulated that. And then I’m very close to my siblings—they’re my best friends—so I had that support. But I also just had it in me. I knew I did not want to be a victim. I felt like I deserved better.