My immediate issue is whether to take down the memorial page. There are four adult grandchildren in our family, and their warm memories of their grandfather would be permanently altered if they learned about this. They may discover it someday, but I don’t have to make that easier. I also don’t know whether my octogenarian mother is aware of any of this. If she isn’t, learning about it would devastate her — perhaps as much as learning that I know or that this information is now publicly available. I’m sure it would kill my younger sister if I told her what I found.