But as I recovered from my heartbreak, I started to notice he had some views on gender, minorities and the current state of the world that I couldn’t disagree with more. Though his views aren’t extreme, they touch on topics that are very close to my heart. I’m starting to think that this might be something nonnegotiable to me, but the idea of cutting ties with someone who helped me more than anyone when I needed help the most makes me feel very ungrateful. Should I “break up” with him? — Name Withheld