“We’re constantly receiving and exchanging information, and communicating in some way, but that doesn't necessarily mean that the quality of that connection is there—or that the intention is there,” says Miriam Kirmayer, a clinical psychologist in Montreal who researches adult friendships. “When you ask someone if they’ve purposefully and intentionally and thoughtfully reached out to a friend through text, they often say, ‘Hold on, no, I haven’t. I’ve texted someone about arranging a play date for my kid. I've texted my spouse about what we're cooking for dinner tonight.’ But people don't necessarily take the time to check in with friends in that way with intention.”